So Thick And Sticky It Clings

So a twenty something gay man is thinking about tiptoeing back into the big ol’ pink closet because… for some reason he can’t see himself growing old with a guy. He likes the idea of growing old with a woman because it’s what he is used to seeing. It’s the norm. One of Leo’s friends was making small talk. Says he wants a girlfriend. This from a guy who likes taking it up the arse, looks and talks as gay as day. Not something new, I bet a lot of gay men do it to avoid social stigma. You want to have kids? Not a problem. Nothing stopping gay men from raising their own kids these days. Easy as there’s more than one way to do it. Wanting a wife to come home to, well that’s a different matter. Want your cake and eat it too? That can be arranged, I guess. What’re you going to do when the itch to do it with another man becomes too powerful it makes your gonads twitch? I’m not saying that gay relationships are based on sex and sex alone, but man, attraction to a gender pretty much defines your sexuality, doesn’t it?

While not the weirdest of conversations, it’s definitely one of the most frustrating for me. Normally this would’ve turned into a fiery exchange of opinions and principles where I carelessly imbue my statements with insult so thick and sticky it clings to your ear canal, but I was trying to keep the judgment in check. I was making an effort to understand the reason behind the need. I’m pro choice these days but that doesn’t mean I keep my opinions to myself.

So he goes on saying that as a kid, he visualized his future self living a normal life. Normal = kids, wife, dog, cat, family car, house on a prairie–the works.

You can conform all you want but the fact remains: you’re gay, you’ll probably get a long time partner, probably raise very open-minded kids, they’ll probably call you daddy and papa (or mama, if you’re extremely swishy), you’ll both probably have unwanted hair all over which you will shave because you’re oh so civilized, by the age of 35 you both probably won’t have a full head of hair and spend your savings on hair transplants, you’ll keep jobs, buy a fabulous house and fill it with leopard print furniture…

Point is, you can be gay and still be normal.

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Reading: Odd Thomas / Dean Koontz + Ptolemy’s Gate / Jonathan Stroud
Music: Grapevine Fires / Death Cab For Cutie / Narrow Stairs
Playing: Baldur’s Gate (PC)